Anonymous asked
Should a girl spoil her boyfriend? People say you should keep your man happy but how do you do that without him taking you for granted?

Treat men how they DESERVE to be treated, not how you want to treat them. That is some of the best advice I’ve ever given.

Anonymous asked
Hey asiah, I am 18 and I never had a boyfriend. boys tell me all the time I am hot and pretty and etc. But if I am so hot why have I never had a boyfriend? Even the other day a boy messaged my friend saying I was "peng"... but why would he not presue it?

who knows. Here’s some great advice though : ignore men until you’re graduated and are in the pursuit of your career. Young men don’t know what they want and have potential to change their mind regardless of/despite what you’ve done to earn them. You don’t need the distraction lol. Unless you meet one and fall in love - there’s still potential for that to happen- but the experience is worth the heartache sometimes.

Anonymous asked
id like to think that youve helped me become the young woman that i am today, even though i dont agree with everything you say/do but that's life. ive been coming to yout blog for almost three years id like to say, and id just like to thank you again, i feel like i cant thank you enough

Well.. this is the best thing that’s happened to me all say so I must thank you! I’m just glad i could help :)

Anonymous asked
What's your advice on not getting intimidated when other attractive girls are around?

just realize that a pretty face is just that. Just because someone is pretty doesn’t mean they are better than you. Recognize what you have to offer and be confident in your capabilities.

Anonymous asked
do you believe in Jesus ?

i believe there is a higher power but I do not believe in fabricating names, powers, and/or purposes for it. It is unknown.

Anonymous asked
do you ever feel like you love somebody more than they love you ? I feel like that .

lol, my life

Anonymous asked
I feel so unwanted by friends - I have a big group and when we're all together it's hard to contribute to convo's but I can connect when it's like 1 on 1, and when boys come around they all start acting up and leave me for them. Has me questioning if they're actually true friends.. or if I'm being emotional and it isn't that serious. I feel so excluded at times b/c I'm shy when I'm being induced to new ppl but ughhhhh... idk why this bothers me.

This happens a lot while you’re in high school or grade school. You’re submissive and they know no matter how they treat you in front of people they can come back and say whatever and you’ll forgive them.

Anonymous asked
hey im 17 and im not the type of person to talk about how im feeling mentally. I guess I just don't trust anyone to let them get that close. but its like when I hug people I want to cry it's really weird like I'll have to catch myself

You have some deep rooted issues that will hinder your growth until you accept and deal with them my love. Good luck with your journey.

Anonymous asked
I solemnly swear that I am up to no good

😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈

Anonymous asked
I hung out with this guy for the first time and it was awesome then the second time it was super awkward for some reason? Like Idk I swear it was him but he said I was making him feel weird.. but I was just half asleep cus I was high!

So maybe it was you lol

Anonymous asked
Part 2: as homo. Like he is a real dude who likes sports and he's had girlfriends. But this doesn't make sense to me. Like why is gay porn on your laptop? How should I approach him? And should I automatically assume he's gay...

Maybe he just didn’t understand how men had sex so he was doing research

Anonymous asked
So I'm 18 years old fresh out of high school and in my first relationship and I want to lose my virginity. The only issue I have is that I'm also ready to break up with my boyfriend but I don't want to do it until after we have sex because I feel like my virginity is something annoying I want to get rid of but I also feel a little bit guilty like I'm doing something wrong...what do you think?

I think you are very foolish and don’t realize just how sacred your v card is. If you don’t want to be with him then leave him but don’t lose it to him. Ne’er mind the fact that that will confuse the shit out of him but he’s the person you’ll think of every time you think of it.

It’s a shame that this is how the youth of 2014 are thinking. Get your priorities straight. You wanna keep that for someone who works for it.